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Despite what you surely had been told, I did not abandon you, Lili. You were taken from me. I fought for you for two and a half years in court, just for the right to be a small part of your life. I knew going in that the incompetent and callous Japanese legal system would disregard my side of the story entirely (and there were some VERY compelling facts in my favor should you ever want to learn the truth), and that I was bound to lose, both as a man and as a foreigner. Nevertheless, I did what any loving father would do, rushing in to the burning building to save my daughter from the psychological damage so many on the other side seemed content to inflict on you. It saddens me that I was unable to save you from that. But my conscienece is clear, knowing how hard I tried.

I spent years after that in protest marches and petitioning both the Japanese and American government to do something about my left-behind parenthood. I did everything in my power to be a part of your life, but it was a fait accompli, sadly, that I — we — would lose that battle.

We were once close, Lili, and it was a crime what they did to us to just to cover up what THEY did to me and keep that knowledge from you. I had to be made to be the bad guy so that the truth of what happened in my marriage could remain buried under the avalanche of falsehoods you were fed on what I assume was a daily basis.

As Princess Diana remarked once in an interview, my marriage had gotten “a bit crowded.”

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Dear Lili,

Hard to believe another year has come and gone. This year marks 20 years since last we spent any time together. Twenty years! Imagine that. 

I always imagine that you must have found this blog by now. I’ve been at it for 13 years now, having started on Father’s Day in 2011. And I think you must know the truth by now of who I am, and have come to realize that your understanding of me was built on falsehoods and slander by others with agendas of their own.

Then why haven’t you contaced me? Don’t you have any of your own memories of how close we once were together? Are your “memories” of me limted to those implanted by those who wish me ill?

My memroies of you are intact. They have always been so. Nothing anyone could have said or done would ever change a father’s love for his only child. I hope someday you can come to see this for your own.

Love always,

Your one and only Dad

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Don’t ever let anybody tell you otherwise.

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These are just some of the many US Embassy officials, Congressmen, and government officials I met trying just to see you again. Of course, as a foreigner in Japan I was destined to fail in my efforts, but when you see your child inside a burning building you don’t ask questions — you run in to save her. I could have just walked away, but that’s not me. To be sure, I suffered grievous peresonal injuries throughout this ordeal. The scars remain to this day.

What else is a father to do?

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Ueno Zoo April 19, 2003

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A little late, but Happy Valentine’s Day, Buppy.

You are always in my heart.

Love,

Dad

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